Becalmed? Stagnant? Stuck? Invisible?
Do you feel unhappy, unappreciated, uncherished, unwanted, redundant, a bit useless, unimportant to those who matter to you? Do you feel as if you’re going nowhere in your career? Do you feel you’re treading water in your social and personal life? Is everything a bit stagnant? Can’t motivate yourself to do anything much? Can’t even think of anything much you want to do? To put in bluntly, are you stuck?
Does everybody else seem to be having fun while you’re not? Are they all moving on leaving you trailing behind or just stuck in a backwater? Are you overlooked at work or at home, and just taken for granted? When it comes to promotion, why are you not being considered or taken seriously? In relationships with your friends or family, are you just thought of as someone who’s always around but never does anything much – just not very noticeable? Just there to make up the numbers?
I come across quite a few people in this situation. Usually female. Usually really nice people. Somehow things have been passing them by – and are still passing them by. They’ve become “background” people. They’re always there, they can be counted on as part of the routine of life. They’re reliable, consistent, pleasant – part of the scenery.
There’s a school of thought that says women become invisible after the age of 50. The women I’m talking about have started to become more or less invisible much earlier than that.
I can only speak from experience, and that tells me that this situation can occur from around the age of 33 or 34 – yes, 33 or 4. Granted, most are a little older, often early 40’s, but once the process starts, it’s surprising how quickly the years pass, until suddenly – you realise you’re in this situation, and you hadn’t really noticed!
Ask yourself – do you want this to continue?
Surely not? YOU ONLY GET ONE LIFE.
I know, there are those who are quite happy to drift along, quite content (on the surface) to live their life at this low level, quite happy to let the years roll by in a kind of detached, uninvolved way. Unnoticed, unappreciated – all the things I described in the first paragraph on this page. Have another look up there now. If you actually are one of those people who’re quite happy about this, there’s no point in reading on.
But if you’re not too happy with your lot in life? Would rather feel appreciated, either at work or in your personal life? Would you rather feel cherished – treasured – wanted – desired – important – somebody worth talking to – somebody who’s ideas and feelings need to be considered?
Do you ever get that kind of vague, uneasy feeling that you just can’t put you finger on, and you just don’t know what to do about it?
D’you feel anxious about “what’s around the corner”? Because , unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be much around your corner. That’s worrying. Not just worrying – it’s sad and depressing.
Fortunately, if you want me to, I can help you. You’ll start to feel better surprisingly quickly. You’ll “come alive” again, start to enjoy life a bit more. People will start to notice you, to be aware of you, to take you properly into consideration. You’ll be in contention for more in your career, you’ll have a better social life, you won’t just be ignored. You won’t just be wallpaper to other’s lives.
And once all that starts, who knows what might happen? Well you will actually. You’ll have a say, your views will count, you’ll have some control over your own future, your own destiny.
Take Lucy, for example. Aged 42. Tall, attractive, healthy, fit, intelligent. Decent middle range job, reasonably paid, own flat, newish car. Broke up with her boyfriend a few months ago when she realised he was taking her for granted, and had been doing for quite a while. No one else on the horizon right now. She realised she was marking time at work, overlooked a couple of times for promotion, expected to cover for others less competent than her, but not given much appreciation for that. Other folks always seemed to be asked to do the interesting stuff, while she very capably carried on handling everything else. Some people were sent off abroad for projects – but not Lucy.
She was wasted, in fact, and she came to realise that, and she didn’t like it. But she didn’t seem to be quite able to break out of it.
And that’s when she came to see me.
I helped Lucy become more noticeable, more assertive, more self-confident and able to be seen and heard. Within a few weeks, she’d been selected to train a new member of staff, and she went to spend 6 weeks or so in Singapore to do it – the first time her company had ever sent her anywhere. She also dealt very satisfactorily with a colleague at work who, Lucy felt, had gradually been undermining her, which she hadn’t felt confident enough to deal with until now. He social life improved, too, and she started to do things she’d always wanted to do. Still no new boyfriend at the time of writing, but that wasn’t greatly concerning her anymore – she knew things would change when the right person came along. Basically, Lucy became much happier in quite a short space of time, and it showed. It showed in her body language, the way she held herself, the way she stood, walked and even sat. The way she talked, the animation in her face and voice – it all changed for the better. She became even more attractive.
I’m in a great position to help you with all this, too. I’m not just a Hypnotherapist, I’m also a Life Coach and NLP practitioner. Using facets of all these techniques I really can help you make those changes to make yourself “visible” again to the great outside world. And once people see you coming, you’ll really see the difference. In reality, it might be someone else who notices the difference in you first. Wouldn’t that be great?
I’ve successfully helped lots of women and girls in this situation, and I can do it for you too. I can help you build your self-confidence, I can help you be more assertive, I can help boost your ego. I can help you get moving again.
I can help you become visible, I can help you matter.
Get in touch soon – you can’t go on as you are. Can you?
Please get in contact for more information.
Mission Hypnotism, Bagshot and Farnham, both in Surrey. Phone 01256 704769